How many times were you trying to get someone to do something for you but you just knew the two of you were not on the same page?
Miscommunication happens ALL the time. Sometimes it's no big deal... when I was a FOB kid, my English was passable but there were plenty of words and expressions I didn't know. It led to situations like this:
Kid: Hey wanna hear a funny joke?
Me: ... ok
Kid: When is a door not a door?
Kid: When it's ajar ahahhhaha
Me: ... ... (not knowing the word ajar) oookay.
See to me he could have just as easily said "a fork" and it would have been equally not funny.
Later on, miscommunication is a big culprit in relationships. How many arguments start because two people have different viewpoints on the same issue? Or you're doing your best to *calmly* explain why you're upset, and you can tell... it's just not registering.
Where am I going with this rant... well if there's people "not getting you" when you can use actual language to convey your meaning... don't be surprised when you have miscommunications with your body.
you start thinking...
"I'm doing everything RIGHT, why is ___ not happening"
"I'm training so hard, why am I not getting stronger?"
"My body is stupid"
"My body CLEARLY hates me"
"Maybe there's something wrong with me."
Yep, there is a small possibility that systemically your body might have a deficiency of some kind. You can always get some blood work and testing done to rule that out. Chances are that your body isn't inherently flawed - it's that the two of you are just not on the same page.
Your body and you have a relationship. Unlike relationships with people, you know your body wants to work in the best possible way to keep you alive and well. It's evolutionarily built to survive, adapt and progress. Unfortunately, unlike with people you can't directly "tell it" what you want it to do.
So if you and your body can't "talk things out", how do you get the responses that you want? You need to be sending clear consistent signals. You need to engage in trial and error and observe what works and what doesn't. Don't be surprised when something you really think *should* work doesn't... and when something you think is a weird idea suddenly gives you improvement. Most importantly, you need to be patient to find out exactly what works for you.
This is why I'm a fan of 21-Day challenges, 6 weeks at the most for a
"trial period" to evaluate progress.
Try something for 21 Days to see how your body responds, if you're uncertain, try 6 weeks. Evaluate progress - and I don't just mean *weigh yourself*, that gives you very little information. Try to evaluate fat loss and muscle-gain, evaluate how you feel, how's your training going? Is your strength improving? Are you getting more definition, did you lose definition? Treat each segment as a learning experience to figure out what works and what doesn't. It can come down to really small tweaks and details!
For example, I like intermittent fasting. The whole "6-small-meals-a-day" makes me hungry ALL the time. When researching intermittent fasting, a popular schedule is 8 hours fed/16 hours fasted. I tried that persistently and had mixed results - some days I felt great, others, completely freaking terrible. Training became erratic. I tried eating more food in the feeding window... no change. I tried eating less... no change. I extended my feeding hours to 9 fed/15 fasted instead of 8/16... BOOM. Energy levels were fantastic and hunger was under control.
So experiment away! Learn to talk to your body! Communicate! And don't jump onto popular ideas and gimmicks just because they're popular. Eat with a purpose, train with a purpose, and use common sense.
It's Friday the 13th... tun dun dun.
I actually LOVE the number 13. It is a VERY lucky number for me! For example:
The day I found out I got an amazing scholarship from TD - Apr. 13
The day I found out I got into Mac Health Sci - May 13
Day I found out I got into Dental School - Apr 13
My first license plates - 139 and 283
The one and only time I won $2000 at a casino at a 2-cent slot machine - Nov 13.
My mom though is a bit superstitious when it comes to my lucky 13. My very first license plate had 139 in it. So 13 and a total sum of 13 from 1+3+9. This was making my mom a bit anxious so she went with me to the DMV to order a new one. It arrived for pickup...the letters were different, but the numbers yet again - 139. Haha what a crazy coincidence! Then we get a second car... I order a second license plate... 283, sums to 13 again. I love coincidences that work out in my favour!!!
There are actually tons more... and I know what you're thinking... you're surrounded by the number because you pay attention to it so you notice it. "Selective coincidence." And that's completely true, but it doesn't mean I'm not allowed to rock it. I love having a lucky charm (and I have more of them than just my lucky 13)
Finding something that is your lucky charm will turn things in your favour.
Remember in Harry Potter, when he has Felix Felicis? The liquid luck potion? And it's totally amazing because he can feel when good opportunities arise and knows exactly how to take advantage of them?
Too bad we can't do that in real life... but what I LOVE about this part of the book is when Harry placebos Ron into thinking he took the potion as well. And Ron kicks some serious butt during their Quidditch tournament going by his own pure talent. Placebo lucky charm for the win!! Having a lucky charm works! Even if it's only because it gives you that little bit of self esteem, that extra bit of courage to try something new or a way to manage your anxiety and put yourself in a more positive mood!! I have pre-competition and pre-race rituals that I always follow! Doing so puts me in the right mindset. And it's not so much about trying to get illusion of control of a situation where you have less control, but about feeling anchored during an uncertain time.
My reference is not just HP... studies show that having a lucky charm DOES increase your chance of success! There's a pretty good read here, but there are dozens more studies examining the psychology behind luck and risk
So find a lucky charm!
Here's a list of some common ones, but I recommend you find your own. The sillier and more unique, the better.
1. Lucky Cricket! Like in Mulan... but real ones are nowhere near as cute so... I wouldn't do this unless it's a toy
2. The Nazar... if you go to Greece or Turkey these things are EVERYWHERE. Especially jewelry. Easy to wear... but they scare me a bit.
3. Horseshoes! A bit cliché, but the shape is so great and works with anything:
4. Lucky Penny! Canada's phased the penny out... where is your luck now, penny. Also if you were to find money to pick up I hope it's more than a lucky penny.
5. Hamsa - tell the evil eye to talk to the hand
6. Four-leaf clover. To me less a sign of good luck and more of a "it's St. Patty's Day and everyone is getting loaded!"
7. 7! Lucky 7 is all over the place. Many religions and cultures embrace it.
In the end it doesn't matter, you're just rocking your personal placebo.
So for today's message of the day...
Embrace your lucky charm placebo! If you have one... LOVE it. If you don't... you can always think of one, next time you set a PB... or something extraordinary happens... find an object that you associate with that. And milk it for all it's psychologically worth!