How many times were you trying to get someone to do something for you but you just knew the two of you were not on the same page?
Miscommunication happens ALL the time. Sometimes it's no big deal... when I was a FOB kid, my English was passable but there were plenty of words and expressions I didn't know. It led to situations like this:
Kid: Hey wanna hear a funny joke?
Me: ... ok
Kid: When is a door not a door?
Kid: When it's ajar ahahhhaha
Me: ... ... (not knowing the word ajar) oookay.
See to me he could have just as easily said "a fork" and it would have been equally not funny.
Later on, miscommunication is a big culprit in relationships. How many arguments start because two people have different viewpoints on the same issue? Or you're doing your best to *calmly* explain why you're upset, and you can tell... it's just not registering.
Where am I going with this rant... well if there's people "not getting you" when you can use actual language to convey your meaning... don't be surprised when you have miscommunications with your body.
you start thinking...
"I'm doing everything RIGHT, why is ___ not happening"
"I'm training so hard, why am I not getting stronger?"
"My body is stupid"
"My body CLEARLY hates me"
"Maybe there's something wrong with me."
Yep, there is a small possibility that systemically your body might have a deficiency of some kind. You can always get some blood work and testing done to rule that out. Chances are that your body isn't inherently flawed - it's that the two of you are just not on the same page.
Your body and you have a relationship. Unlike relationships with people, you know your body wants to work in the best possible way to keep you alive and well. It's evolutionarily built to survive, adapt and progress. Unfortunately, unlike with people you can't directly "tell it" what you want it to do.
So if you and your body can't "talk things out", how do you get the responses that you want? You need to be sending clear consistent signals. You need to engage in trial and error and observe what works and what doesn't. Don't be surprised when something you really think *should* work doesn't... and when something you think is a weird idea suddenly gives you improvement. Most importantly, you need to be patient to find out exactly what works for you.
This is why I'm a fan of 21-Day challenges, 6 weeks at the most for a
"trial period" to evaluate progress.
Try something for 21 Days to see how your body responds, if you're uncertain, try 6 weeks. Evaluate progress - and I don't just mean *weigh yourself*, that gives you very little information. Try to evaluate fat loss and muscle-gain, evaluate how you feel, how's your training going? Is your strength improving? Are you getting more definition, did you lose definition? Treat each segment as a learning experience to figure out what works and what doesn't. It can come down to really small tweaks and details!
For example, I like intermittent fasting. The whole "6-small-meals-a-day" makes me hungry ALL the time. When researching intermittent fasting, a popular schedule is 8 hours fed/16 hours fasted. I tried that persistently and had mixed results - some days I felt great, others, completely freaking terrible. Training became erratic. I tried eating more food in the feeding window... no change. I tried eating less... no change. I extended my feeding hours to 9 fed/15 fasted instead of 8/16... BOOM. Energy levels were fantastic and hunger was under control.
So experiment away! Learn to talk to your body! Communicate! And don't jump onto popular ideas and gimmicks just because they're popular. Eat with a purpose, train with a purpose, and use common sense.